These people have too much time on their hands. Every time one get drunk w their friend and. Start having fun talking Sh-t, that is NOT a policy committee meeting.
You don't have to implement your sick, drunken "what if's" that obviously only effect those outside your circle. If one has minimal experience in something, an expert is consulted: if your not black, a woman, a homosexual, a single mother/father, a rape victim, anything that you would otherwise be clueless about- please REFRAIN from taking the lead. Just because you're not an expert in your bedroom, kitchen, hot tub... Does not mean you have to ruin it for everyone else.
MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. You too can learn to satisfy your partner.